Well your guess is as good as ours!
I'm writing from a pretty angry place right now as SI advised us, only after we e-mailed this morning asking when our test results would be available, that the bHCG would only be done today. The test was supposed to be performed on Saturday.
No e-mail, no phone call - no chance of knowing why there has been a delay unless we e-mailed them to ask what was going on. And even then, it was a simple one liner late this afternoon saying it will be done today and the result would be provided tomorrow.
And this is what our normal experience has been like with SI since June. No consideration, no care and no communication. I recognise the massive opportunity we have being able to access surrogacy in India but we are beginning to face the stark realisation that we have made a monumental fuck up by choosing SI. From all I've read on other blogs, there are more things to worry about in the process than whether or not the people trying to help you have a baby 1. care, or 2. will bother communicating with you once they have the money deposited. And really, communication issues are just the tip of the iceberg and leads me to concerns about the other people involved - our surrogate.
Most people experience the emotional highs and lows of surrogacy arising from their attempt at getting pregnant and watching the pregnancy develop. I feel that we now have the additional burden that if we did get pregnant tomorrow that we have to face with this level(?) of support for a further 8 months.
Over the last few months I refrained from criticising our clinic, thinking the culture is different and our expectations need to be adjusted - and they have. But the truth is basic communication and consideration are business fundamentals in any country and they are simply not present here. It is very isolating to feel this way as there are limited options of venting the level of frustration we're experiencing. Generally family and friends don't understand fully what you're going through, and close friends, while being endlessly supportive, always play the role of trying to keep you positive. There's no surrogacy ombudsmen, no regulator and no chance that things will improve in the near future for us.
I read blogs about people going through SCI and can't believe how lucky they are to have a clinic who can communicate effectively and actually talk to them after a negative result. Following our final bHCG test on our last attempt - there was no correspondence from SI at all until we approached them about another attempt 6 weeks later. I don't expect a full blow by blow dissection of the what happened from FET to HCG result - but I did expect a phone call or e-mail - saying something along the lines of "We're sorry your received a negative result. When you're ready to move forward and discuss your approach please contact us and we can have a chat." We suggested this after our first negative, but alas it has fallen on deaf ears.
I'll end there because as cathartic as this is, I could probably go on for hours. So thanks for listening and tomorrow we prod again to remind them to send our result...but I can't say at this point in time I'm overly optimistic about the outcome.
GBLC
I'm writing from a pretty angry place right now as SI advised us, only after we e-mailed this morning asking when our test results would be available, that the bHCG would only be done today. The test was supposed to be performed on Saturday.
No e-mail, no phone call - no chance of knowing why there has been a delay unless we e-mailed them to ask what was going on. And even then, it was a simple one liner late this afternoon saying it will be done today and the result would be provided tomorrow.
And this is what our normal experience has been like with SI since June. No consideration, no care and no communication. I recognise the massive opportunity we have being able to access surrogacy in India but we are beginning to face the stark realisation that we have made a monumental fuck up by choosing SI. From all I've read on other blogs, there are more things to worry about in the process than whether or not the people trying to help you have a baby 1. care, or 2. will bother communicating with you once they have the money deposited. And really, communication issues are just the tip of the iceberg and leads me to concerns about the other people involved - our surrogate.
Most people experience the emotional highs and lows of surrogacy arising from their attempt at getting pregnant and watching the pregnancy develop. I feel that we now have the additional burden that if we did get pregnant tomorrow that we have to face with this level(?) of support for a further 8 months.
Over the last few months I refrained from criticising our clinic, thinking the culture is different and our expectations need to be adjusted - and they have. But the truth is basic communication and consideration are business fundamentals in any country and they are simply not present here. It is very isolating to feel this way as there are limited options of venting the level of frustration we're experiencing. Generally family and friends don't understand fully what you're going through, and close friends, while being endlessly supportive, always play the role of trying to keep you positive. There's no surrogacy ombudsmen, no regulator and no chance that things will improve in the near future for us.
I read blogs about people going through SCI and can't believe how lucky they are to have a clinic who can communicate effectively and actually talk to them after a negative result. Following our final bHCG test on our last attempt - there was no correspondence from SI at all until we approached them about another attempt 6 weeks later. I don't expect a full blow by blow dissection of the what happened from FET to HCG result - but I did expect a phone call or e-mail - saying something along the lines of "We're sorry your received a negative result. When you're ready to move forward and discuss your approach please contact us and we can have a chat." We suggested this after our first negative, but alas it has fallen on deaf ears.
I'll end there because as cathartic as this is, I could probably go on for hours. So thanks for listening and tomorrow we prod again to remind them to send our result...but I can't say at this point in time I'm overly optimistic about the outcome.
GBLC
